Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Being Straight-Forward

Why is it so hard to be straight-forward nowadays?

Why can't a friend or co-worker or potential love interest or family member just say what on their mind or ask you what they really want to ask?

Why is everyone so afraid of having their feelings hurt? Or hurting the feelings of others?

A few months ago, I was emailing this guy and things weren't working for him. He emailed me and told me that he wasn't feeling "it" and decided to move on. And believe it or not folks, I wasn't hurt. I was happy that he was honest with me and risked hurting my feelings by telling me the truth. I have a lot a respect for him, wherever he may be.

I've always been rather open with my life and my experiences. There are certain things I won't tell anyone for years and years, but I think we all have those deep dark secrets. Starting friendships with people who aren't forthcoming at all is what irritates me. Sharing the stories that have no depth or that don't tell me about who really are or feel don't count as stories; they count as time-fillers, also known as fluff.

We aren't made of rock, people, others shouldn't have to get a hammer and chisel to get to the real you. If you want new friends, you're going to have to tell a few stories/secrets. It may be painful but think of it this way...if you make a new friend, then they'll help carry the burden of what you've told them and if they turn out to not be a friend, then it really doesn't matter.

1 comment:

Jaxie Fantastic said...

I love it when you write. :) I'm chatting with you right now though so it seems kind of silly to leave a long drawn out comment on the blog... Oh look, I already did!